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Love Sometimes Means Saying Goodbye . . .

Submitted by on April 4, 2011 – 7:00 AM2 Comments
Love Sometimes Means Saying Goodbye . . .

Thoughts on Separation Anxiety (Part I)

The time comes when you have to leave your child for a period of time.  It may be for a time when you just need to have only adult company.  It may be because you want your child to begin a preschool program or it may be because you need to work at a specific job. These are often stressful times for both the child and the parent.  The stress you and your child may feel is very normal.  Here are some suggestions to make this change in your life a little more comfortable.

  • Prepare yourself and your child for this change.  Visit the new care taker or the new child care center.  Stay a while and help your child become familiar with the new environment.
  • If you are leaving your child with a home care provider, check references and talk to other parents who have utilized the same services.
  • Make a list of questions you want to ask of the provider or the center personnel.  Visit at random times. (Parents should always be welcome at any home or center.)
  • Tell your child what you expect:
    You and your child will greet the caretaker.
    You expect your child to join other children and listen to the caretaker.  You will hug your child goodbye and tell him when you will return.

Prepare what needs to be taken to a child care center.   Do this the evening before. Involve your child, toddlers or older, in the preparation. Include items that help your child feel more secure such as a special blanket, stuffed animal or book. (It is also important that a child care center values and displays pictures of a child and his family.)

Be gentle, yet firm with your child about your expectations. The body language you display sends messages to your child.  You need to appear confident, not guilty about leaving your child.  Your positive modeling is essential.

Upon returning, tell your child what he did well and anything you want him to do better in the future.

Children need to feel unconditional love all the time, but even more when there is a change in the routine of their life.  The Runaway Bunny by Margaret Wise Brown, is an excellent story to share with your child.  It has been recognized as a beloved book for more than 60 Years.  The story and illustrations are simply outstanding.  Read it often to your child.

It is a tale of a little bunny who tries to run away from home, but a mother’s love is so strong that she always finds her little one.


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2 Comments »

  • Thank you Dr. Annie,

    As a daycare provider, I have encountered this scenario hundreds if not thousands of times. The drop off is definitly a action / reaction situation. If the child is worked up, but the parent remains calm, the drop off “de-fuses” quicker, on the other hand, if a parent lingers, worries, builds the situation up, then it spirals out of control. And a word to moms, the drama usually only lasts 3 – 4 minutes after the parent leaves. If a caregiver does not “play into” the drama, the child self soothes and goes about playing, breakfast etc.

    Damma Lauri

  • Dr. Annie says:

    Thank you Lauri for this insightful comment. It is so true that children look to their parents in regards to their directionality. Sometimes parents try to tiptoe out the door or keep coming back to peek in the windows. Their children surely feel the uncertainness of their parents. You are so right that most children calm down quickly, especially with engaging caregivers who try to understand and acknowledge the very real feelings of children.

    Thanks again for being a part of Sunshine Mamas. Dr. Annie

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